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EngineOfCreation's avatar

I am sufficiently excited and qualified to declare this comment section open for participation. The time is right now, the place is right here. Please make a best effort to comment in English. The topic is physical meetups all over the world; for arbitrary topics, please consider the Open Thread room two doors down the hall, room 393.

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Aditya Kaushik's avatar

This may be a topic for a different post, but at the meetup I've been going to, we've recently been having discussions about attracting more women to come to our group, given that its an overwhelmingly male-dominated group. Basically it's boiled down to:

1. What could we do to get more women to come (and hopefully stay)?

2. Do we care enough about the goal of getting more women to come to do those things?

Point (2) is very dependent on point (1), since the more intrusive the things we decide we need to do to accomplish this goal are, the less likely we are to want to do them. We've definitely settled on the fact that all else equal, we'd like to have more women show up.

I'm sure that we are far from being the only group to have this "issue", so for groups that previously had this issue and were able to overcome it, what did you end up doing?

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John M's avatar
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ACX readership in general is heavily male so your best bet is probably just to advertise the meetups more in hopes that more people show up. That way, you increase the odds that at least a few of them will be women.

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Skyler's avatar

My current best answer to 1 is to find one woman whose interested in running a meetup, and second woman willing to say she'll show up to that. Encourage them to pick the topics. My guess is this won't be intrusive, and the regular organizer would even appreciate having someone else run things once in a while.

The groups I know of with the most women have a woman as the primary organizer. One of them has sometimes asked how to get more men to come and hopefully stay, which is an uncommon problem to say the least. I sometimes call this "founder effects are magic" because I can't figure out what exactly she's doing differently- if I was just looking at the announcement text and topics, I wouldn't have guessed there was a gender difference going on.

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RenOS's avatar

Network effects would be my first guess, i.e. that new people going to the meetups are very disproportionally already friends with at least one person there, and most people have more same- than cross-sex friendships. My experience has also been that this is even more true for women than men, especially if the women (correctly) suspect the meetup to be male-dominated.

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quiet_NaN's avatar

I do not think a meetup where the gender ratio reflects the gender ratio of the readership is a bad thing, per se. (My guess would be that the fraction of women might be slightly higher because they are generally more social, but it could also be the other way round because women are more likely to have competing social activities.) I would be generally opposed to affirmative action measures.

However, I can totally see the possibility of a self-propagating pattern where ten guys and one woman show up, and three of the men try to inaptly flirt with the woman in a way which makes her uncomfortable, causing her not to join subsequent meetups, which would be a bad outcome.

If that is a concern, then instituting a rule to the tune of "you are allowed to ask a stranger woman if she would like to drink a coffee with you once during the meetup but should otherwise try to strive not to show romantic interest in them, unless she is wearing an Aella-party-style armband which indicates other preferences" on a per-meetup basis might be a good idea.

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Unobserved Observer's avatar

> I do not think a meetup where the gender ratio reflects the gender ratio of the readership is a bad thing, per se.

Don't disagree, but an argument for specifically trying to skew more equal is that people (of whatever the minority gender is) who come would be more comfortable/enjoy it more, and/or more people of that gender would be interested in showing up (increasing the overall number of people you can get), which both seem like general good things.

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quiet_NaN's avatar

I understand your point, but I hypothesize that the uncomfortableness would mostly be around the total number of female attendants, not so much the ratio.

If I was the only woman in a group of ten men, I might have some "I feel like I stepped into the wrong locker room" vibes, I suppose. (As a guy, I can not say I have been in that exact situation.)

The ratio might also play a role (being one of three women in ten people total is very different from being one out of three in 100 people total), but to a lesser extend.

I would also recommend banning asking women if they are more uncomfortable with one or the other during the meetup, though. :)

Could be part of an online questionnaire after the meetup, though.

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Unobserved Observer's avatar

Yeah, I agree that achieving a perfect ratio seems unnecessary for this and it's probably more about passing some threshold.

I've been in some situations with mostly women (I'm a guy), but I hesitate to extrapolate much from them, since I feel like to the extent that I was uncomfortable it was mostly due to some stuff that feels fairly specific to me.

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Christina the StoryGirl's avatar

Question 0.5 should probably be *why* do you want more women to attend your group?

The answers change slightly depending on the motivation.

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Antioch's avatar

“7.5” people showed up to the Grass Valley, CA meeting in 2024, and I must admit I’m curious. Did this include one person who Zoomed in? Or a pregnancy?

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John M's avatar

Or perhaps a double leg amputee.

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StrangeBanana's avatar

They may have simply been skeptical that they possessed the agency of a full person.

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Domo Sapiens's avatar

Or someone felt smart enough to fill up 1.5 slots.

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StrangeBanana's avatar

There was probably like... four actual people at that meeting.

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Tasty_Y's avatar

5 people, and 3 billion shrimps.

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Christina the StoryGirl's avatar

LOL!

I love that people aren't letting go of the shrimps.

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Ebrima Lelisa's avatar

Or perhaps just two legs.

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Sol Hando's avatar

One person was just so great they are counted as 1.5 people. I believe the census does something like this as well when they find an unusually large person.

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Joao V Garcia's avatar

Sad to see that the Santiago meetup had 0 takers. I wanted to go but had a previous engagement. I don't want whoever organized to get discouraged, so I hereby commit to make an honest effort to come and to help organize if necessary.

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Joey Marianer's avatar

At the moment there are no organizers in Santiago (or indeed in South America at all), so I'd encourage you to sign up. If you say you're minimally excited/confident and someone else shows up who is more excited/confident they'll give them the slot, so don't worry about taking the job away from someone more "deserving" or whatever.

OK, gonna stop channeling Skyler now. :D

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Vakus Drake's avatar

Any demand for a meetup in Albuquerque? If so let me know and I can arrange a meetup and probably get a couple people from the local EA group to come.

However I'm the only person I know in abq who is more interested in an acx meetup than just doing another EA meetup. Thus I can't justify doing it unless there's some demand.

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Skyler's avatar

The best way I know of to figure out if there's demand for a meetup in a city is to have someone run an ACX Everywhere there and see. I'm obviously inclined to get more meetups on the margin (you don't get a role like ACX Meetups Czar by being the normal amount of interested in ACX meetups) but I think it's fine to try once a year and see what the demand is like.

What's the Albuquerque EA scene like?

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Vakus Drake's avatar

We've got a handful of regulars and had a rare few meetups with up to like a dozen people, but more frequently we've had meetups with 2 or three people. Median is probably 4 if none of the regulars is busy. Last time we had a meetup was June 3rd.

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